Effortless Expansion Episode #006: What's Your Story?

Sep 07, 2022

When I was a kid I loved to watch fairytales and romance movies and I dreamt of the day that I would have a husband. I imagined myself being swept off of my feet by the flawless Prince Charming, just like in the movies. To be honest, even in my real life adult marriage, I fully expected my husband’s life to revolve around me and I had this mental picture that I would be the main character in his movie. That was, until I entered the personal development world and realized that I actually was lacking love for myself. I realized the areas where I thought my husband was falling short were actually for me to own.

I realized that we are all the main characters in our own lives and it would actually be self-sacrificing to expect it to be any different.

It’s just like they say on the airplane, if you don't put your own oxygen mask on first, (before you help other people) what are the chances that you can actually help other people?

I believe it works the same way with energy in putting yourself first. Otherwise you're self-sacrificing. My intention for you being the main character in your story is for you to have the utmost self importance in you. You first.

Anyone who puts you first is putting themself second.

This almost always leads to resentment. We all want to write our own story, so every day when you wake up, you get a choice.

It's one of my favorite things to wake up in the morning, put my hand on my heart and I say, “Thank you. I love you today. Incredible miracles are happening for me.”

And I'm just so grateful. I spend the moment in gratitude and then I ask myself, “How are we gonna spend our day today? What is my context for the day? What is my story gonna be today?”

Something I’ve recently been doing is setting a context for my day. I got this concept from Melanie Ann Layer, one of my mentors. I'll set a really big context for the day, for example: I'm going to have the most fun I can have today. I'm going to be super present today. I'm going to love and look for the beauty in absolutely everything. I'm going to snuggle my children deeply tonight. I'm going to make incredible love to my husband tonight. Etc.

So since the context of, “I am going to have the most fun I can today,” is a big intention, there is no way that I can fall flat in my goal for the day. Even if I raise my voice at my children or things don’t go as planned, I will always be able to pivot and stay in my context.

Here’s what I don’t do anymore…

I don’t tell myself that I’ll be up at 6:00 AM to finish my workout by 7:30, be showered and be ready to go by 8, eat a healthy breakfast and begin my day.

When you get that granular, you leave no room for magic.

My question to you is, how are you going to write your story today? How do you desire to show up? Are you going to go for it?

If you want to see how I am writing my story, head on over to Instagram and follow me at @effortlesslyjess

If you’re ready to do life differently, I would like to invite you into my newest program, Unruly. It’s a 5 Day Live Experience and we are currently on Day 4. It’s not too late to join and you’ll always have access to the replay.

This is for the woman who examines every area of her life, her bank account, relationships, sex life, how she parents, how she show up for herself, and how she treats herself. If something isn’t working, she changes things up. She is committed to taking massive action and co-creates her dream life with the universe.

She gets what she wants and writes her own rules. She writes her own story.

I’m sure by now you’re nodding your head to all of this, so I will just go ahead and leave the link here.


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