Effortless Expansion Episode #026: Let's Go Deep
I want to share with you a “new” soul calling of mine. Technically, it’s not new to me, but the details of how I am going to facilitate this soul calling is.
I’m launching a mastermind. It’s called The Deep.
I’m not going to lie, I had to get big, bold, and brave enough to put this out into the world. It took so much (I’m talking years) of healing to get to this point.
This is a mastermind for women who are not the primary income earners in their marriage. They are not the breadwinners, they are not the ones bringing home the bacon. Their spouse/ partner is.
Inside The Deep, we're going to release the pressure, the should's, the have to’s, the need to’s that you may feel on your shoulders to work and pay all the bills.Instead moving into a place of pure gratitude and openness to receive what you have– an amazing partner who takes care of you.
For so long I didn't see myself as worthy or as an equal partner. This left me with feelings of resentment, feelings of unworthiness, and feelings of comparison, judgment, guilt and shame. This isn’t talked about enough.
People think from the outside looking in, it must be all sunshine and rainbows. The reality is, and if this is you I know you get it– there is a lot of behind the scenes work in holding and supporting your spouse in their position.
Have you ever heard that behind every powerful man is an incredible woman?
I wholeheartedly believe and embody this and my husband, Nick, tells me this often.
He tells me that he would not be able to go to work and uphold the job that he has if our home life wasn't solid and if he didn't feel like he had a partner that had his back.
I do a lot of things for him to make his life easier. I make sure our kids are to and from school. I handle their activities, I plan our trips and manage the smaller moving pieces. This allows him to leave all of that off his plate and off his mind to then go to work. I know how important it is for him to show up powerfully in his career and I want to support him in every way to be able to do that.
I know this all too well because I was the breadwinner for 9 years. I know what it’s like to feel pride and accomplishment. I also know what it’s like to be a stay at home mom. I think it’s worth mentioning that I was never the woman who just wanted to be a stay-at-home mom. I know so many women who felt that desire above everything else, but this was not me. I always wanted to have something for myself outside of the home and I had it when I was working my corporate job. When I quit that job to be a stay-at-home mom four and a half years ago I had this looming feeling of “oh no, what now?”
In hindsight I realize I had all my worthiness tied up in the income I made (it was a lot), this status I had, the trips I got to take, everything. There was almost this silent comparison complex I had over Nick and I didn't fully realize it until the roles switched. Suddenly I was grasping at straws wondering who I was. I felt so unworthy. I felt terrible that I wasn’t contributing financially to our family. Sure, I was keeping the children alive, but does that really count?
This is when the healing work became my focus. It was time for me to find my identity. I was at the point in my life where I was asking myself: Who am I? How do I act? How do I feel? What do I believe? Can I release control? Can I let my husband take care of me?
That was the work and it changed my life forever. After that transformation I was able to circle back to my deep desire to have more for myself, but approach it with a sense of wholeness and purpose. I realized that I could chase my soul’s calling of MORE even though my husband has an incredible job. I don’t have to sacrifice my personal goals and the impact I desire to have. It can be both.
And I might be so bold to say that maybe I even have a leg up in doing it. I don’t have to work but I WANT to.
So I'm speaking to the women who can resonate with this. I’m talking to women who also are married, who have spouses who make a significant income and don't have to work, but desire to. They desire to find their passion, their purpose, their mission and to create an impact on the world.
If when your head hits the pillow at night, you think about what could be– this is for you. Trust me, I get it. At the end of the day, motherhood and being at home, for me, doesn't come with a lot of achievement. There isn't somebody patting you on the back every day or thanking you for changing their life. And yes, your children are growing and the time that you have with them is incredible, but I desired more. And I know so many other women also desire something else outside of motherhood. I echo that sentiment and encourage you to go even further. If you desire something else outside of yourself, to make an impact, to become a world changer, to dive deeper into spirituality, to lead women who have had similar stories to you, whatever that looks like. Do it. Maybe you want to talk about childhood trauma, climbing the corporate ladder, being married to a powerful spouse, raising your family in a different way, homeschooling, whatever that looks like for you. Your story is your story and you wrote it.
So the mission of the Deep, this Mastermind, is to create a collective of women coming together who are married, or who have spouses that make a significant income. We bond deeply because we understand the fire inside each other. We don't have to work, but we desire to out of passion, out of purpose, out of our soul’s mission. And you don't necessarily have to know what that is, but you know for sure you desire something more. This is where the magic is and not a lot of people talk about it. If this is lighting you up- stay tuned. More coming on this soon.
In the meantime, I am calling in three more magical women for The Unknown. This is my sacred one-on-one space where together, we spend three months navigating the unknown– aka. the space between where you are right now and where you desire to be. I know most people hate it here, but to be honest, it is one of my favorite spaces to be in simply because there are so many lessons to learn. You know me and my love for growth. When you fully surrender to the unknown you strip away anything that isn’t serving you and learn to deeply trust the universe. It’s the process of becoming, remembering more of yourself and deciding where you're going.
In this sacred one-on-one space, you and I go deep in family, life, business, relationships– everything about being the woman who lives her limitless life, who fully embodies it in desire, power in luxury. At the end of our three months together you will no longer be looking over your shoulder for your manifestations, you will have a deep understanding of how to get what you want. So if you're desiring to go deeper in your spiritual journey and the unknown is the space where you find it restrictive and difficult and find yourself always searching for your desires, I want to invite you in. This is my specialty.
I've learned to master the unknown, and it is my honor, my joy, and my privilege to mentor others in this space, in The Unknown. If you feel called, let’s do it. I’ve got three spots open. This is the year for you to get big and bold and brave, and nothing changes. If nothing changes.
I know it might be scary because you can't see the next five steps, but the truth is, you only need to know the very next step. So if you feel aligned, I'll see you inside. You can DM me on Instagram for more information or you can follow this link here.
I love you and I am so excited to serve you.